Nursing Care

Moving Elderly Parents into a Nursing Home

By September 18, 2018 No Comments

Plac­ing your par­ents in a nurs­ing home can be a gut-wrench­ing expe­ri­ence. Even if you know that it’s the best deci­sion for their health, it’s a very dif­fi­cult deci­sion. Feel­ings of guilt may be min­gled with your sense of relief. 

Know­ing that your par­ents need full-time care is a heavy bur­den. You can make it lighter by plac­ing them in a safe, rep­utable nurs­ing home. Your par­ents’ com­fort is the num­ber one priority. 

It’s impor­tant that you rec­og­nize the signs when it’s time to make the tran­si­tion. If you pre­pare your­self in advance, the process will be easier. 


When is it Time?


Some­times, you and your par­ents will real­ize togeth­er that it’s time to start search­ing for an assist­ed liv­ing facil­i­ty or nurs­ing home. Many seniors are thrust into their new envi­ron­ment after an unex­pect­ed, seri­ous acci­dent. Recov­ery can be a long, expen­sive process that the aver­age fam­i­ly home isn’t equipped to deal with. 

A lot of fam­i­lies drag the expe­ri­ence out for too long. If your par­ents’ phys­i­cal or men­tal decline is grad­ual, it can be hard to spot the moment when the cri­sis begins. 

If you wait too long to start the con­ver­sa­tion, you can find your­self scur­ry­ing to find a facil­i­ty at the last minute. That’s why it’s cru­cial to pay atten­tion to signs that your par­ents need help going about their day-to-day lives. Speak with their cur­rent care­giv­er if you’re concerned. 


Signs that it’s time to con­sid­er a nurs­ing home: 

  • The emer­gency room vis­its are increasing 
  • Mom or dad has had a seri­ous fall 
  • Mom or dad is becom­ing with­drawn and irritable 
  • Your par­ents have wan­dered away from home 
  • Your par­ents have demand­ing med­ical needs 
  • You have can’t afford to devote more of your time to caregiving 


Tips for Convincing Your Parents  


Once you know that it’s time to start talk­ing about a nurs­ing home, don’t avoid the con­ver­sa­tion. Be proac­tive. Any resis­tance that your par­ents might offer will be strength­ened if you’re not in con­trol of your facts. You should be ready to answer any ques­tions that they might have. 

Visit Several Facilities  

Long-term care will seem less scary when your par­ents wit­ness oth­er seniors in the same sit­u­a­tion. Tour sev­er­al facil­i­ties before you make a choice. Make sure the out­ings are upbeat, pleas­ant experiences. 

Get Outside Input

Your par­ents might be more will­ing to lis­ten to advice that comes from their doc­tor than their child. Bol­ster­ing your opin­ion with qual­i­fied, objec­tive thoughts can help per­suade reluc­tant parents. 

Talk About the Benefits  

Even if you’re plagued with doubts, only present the pos­i­tives of long-term res­i­den­tial care. You want to take the fear out of the idea of mov­ing into an assist­ed liv­ing or nurs­ing home facility. 

Expect to be Emotional

It’s an emo­tion­al moment in life. Instead of being blind­sided by a slew of heavy emo­tions, pre­pare your­self. Under­stand that just because some­thing feels emo­tion­al­ly dif­fi­cult, it doesn’t mean that it’s the wrong thing to do. 

Mov­ing your par­ents into a long-term care facil­i­ty can be tough. How­ev­er, it won’t get any eas­i­er by delay­ing it. If it’s time for your par­ents to make the move, don’t give in to the temp­ta­tion to put it off.